Recently a lady reportedly attracted public attention when she parked her car on the 3rd Mainland Bridge Lagos and jumped in the lagoon. It was pathetically incredible that she took her life. Initially the reason for the suicide was unknown but a day or so after an unconfirmed report went viral that the unknown lady killed herself because her lover reportedly posted their nude pictures online over an argument over $100k he borrowed from her which he refused to give back when she requested for it. Worse still her husband got wind of her secret affairs and he decided to query the paternity of their three children and discovered they were not his. This led her to commit suicide.
It’s a clear case of adultery turn sour. The boyfriend kissed and tell. He published nude pictures of himself and his married girlfriend when the going was good. The unsuspecting girlfriend seemed madly in love with a traitor boyfriend who would not stop at anything to destroy his partner in crime. She must have trusted him too much to do business involving thousands of dollars with him. He later ditched and refused to communicate with her. She sent him a voice message to express her disappointments in his actions and how troubled she had been since he stopped talking to her. The guy posted the voice recording on the social media together with their nude pictures. The height of the saga is the lady killed herself to save her face and dignity in an undignified way.
Why did she have to kill herself and leave her three children at the mercy of others to grow up and survive in this wicked world? Is any man worth sacrificing so much for? Your life happiness and the poor innocent children? Why was she living two lives and still lacked the discernment to know which is better? Her marriage or the affair?
Without jumping to conclusion something must have prompted the extra marital affair which she possibly bottled in and decided to seek solace in another man’s company and thought she wouldn’t be found out! But unfortunately karma caught up with her. The heartless lover decided to have a field day by posting the nude pictures of himself and the girlfriend online.
She would have saved her dignity if she had walked away from the presumable unhappy marriage before getting involved with the lover boy. Then she would have had the freedom to enjoy her life the way she deemed fit but without posing nude stupidly with any man. She would have lived to mother her children. She would have had her life most importantly.
Yet the genesis of this tragedy needs to be mentioned which is the love affair or relationship that went bad. Condition which is not peculiar to the lady in question but to other women too. They face problems in their relationships which if not handled and resolved nicely on time could escalate out of proportion and possibly result in fatality.
My advice is if your marriage or relationship is going through tough time go for counselling with your partner. Look into what causes the problems and try to amend. Avoid seeking advice from friends or family members because you might not benefit from them. Be patient understanding and considerate in all situations. Be focused and think positively as you anticipate a happy friendly and loving relationship with your partner.
Most importantly it is good to cherish dignity by avoiding behaviours that could tarnish it. Respect yourself and your children so as to live comfortably happy in the society and amongst friends and family. And suicide or an abrupt termination of life is an undignified way of saving one’s dignity when the unexpected happens.